Western Presbyterian Church
Washington, DC 20037
March 28, 2010
Text: Luke 19:28-40
I was in New Zealand last summer, working with the Anglican Church, and one of the wonderful things that I learned about was the customs of Maori people. The Anglican church seems to have done a pretty good job, with including the diversity of people in New Zealand. They had a strong Maori presence and we worshiped with Maori liturgies. But there was one thing that made the Maori people distinct in their denomination, and that was their funerals. The white Anglicans appreciated a tidy service that lasted about 45 minutes. But the Maoris had funerals that lasted for days. Every family and friend would gather together to sing, and cry, and eat, and sing some more. They would stay awake for nights in a row to be with those who mourned. The grieving rituals were long and elaborate.
My friend, Bruce Reyes-Chow, is the Moderator of the General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church. He’s from San Francisco, and he’s part Chinese and part Filipino, and his grandfather on the Chinese side just died. He said that there were so many traditions in the grieving process, so many details about what colors to wear and places to sit, and they were so foreign to him and his cousins. When I asked him how they kept all the details straight, he responded that when his grandmother was in the middle of explaining them, he and his cousins started a Google spreadsheet and made lists of everything that they needed to do. I guess every culture has its ways of cherishing its traditions.
I have to admit, when my New Zealand pastor friends told me how difficult it was to spend days grieving, and I heard about the complicated Chinese rituals, I was kind of glad that I was here, in D.C., where our funeral services last an hour. Rituals from the South (where I’m from) can be complicated, but that’s only because you’re trying to avoid the caustic barbs that are thrown on behalf of the ex-wife or the new wife. You almost need a Google doc to remember who’s on which side. But, mostly our grieving process is about going to the funeral, and then attending a big party to consume more fried chicken than you’ve ever seen in your life.
But I wonder if we are missing something. Do we spend enough time with those who grieve? Do we spend enough time with those who suffer? So often when our loved ones go through deep sadness, we don’t like to see them in pain, so we want them to “get over it” quickly. I have seen people look at Kubler Ross’ stages of grief, and treat them like Olympic hurdles that they need to jump as quickly as possible.
When I was a little girl, when I was upset about something, the automatic response from people surrounding me was always, “Don’t cry. It’ll be okay.” They would say it over and over. Then when I got older, I still got the same response when I cried. And I even caught myself saying it to my own daughter the other day. Then, in mid-sentence, I realized that I was saying that, not because I wanted to soothe her. I was saying it because of me. I knew that she had a good reason to cry; I was just uncomfortable. I didn’t want her to have to go through the suffering.
I have heard widows explain that their friends ask them, within months of their spouse dying, “When are you going to get over this?” And that is how we tend to deal with heartache. We like to think about people being resilient, overcoming their hardships, but then we have a difficult time seeing people suffer, especially for long periods of time. We’re uncomfortable sitting with them. We’re afraid we will say the wrong thing, or do the wrong thing, that we’ll cause more pain. Or else, we don’t like to be reminded of their mortality, because it makes us remember our own impending death. It makes us sad, so we shift our focus.
And on the other hand, for those of us who suffer, we don’t want to be pitied or feel dependent. We like to have ourselves put together, and if people see us in a devastated emotional state, we apologize to them, as if we’ve done something wrong by expressing our emotions.
I overheard two friends talking about Haiti recently. In the middle of the conversation, one friend interrupted and said, “I am so sick of hearing about Haiti. Can’t we talk about something else?” I was shocked when he said it. But I suppose that I shouldn’t be. We are a culture that has an incredibly short attention span when it comes to personal sorrow, or even national disasters. We can stick with the story as long as the headline is hot. As long as we’re still interested in rubbernecking at the disaster, we’ll listen, but our attention span ends with the commercial break. We don’t want to hear about the suffering when the bodies start smelling on the street.
We don’t really want to hear about New Orleans now. Katrina was a long time ago. We are not so interested in the painstaking actions that men and women must go through to rebuild Iraq or Afghanistan. We tire of it.
And yet, we gather here and read this story. It’s a happy one this morning, but we know what on the other side of that parade. We know that the crowds who are singing and waving branches will soon be replaced by those inciting anger and frustration. Other people will come on the scene, yelling “Crucify Him.” This week is full of anxiety, as Jesus sweats blood and prays for another way out.
And yet, we read this story. We enter into this time and we allow the heaviness of it to surround us and envelop us. As we enter Holy Week, what does that mean for Christians? In this particular time in history, our understanding of why Jesus died on the cross doesn’t always resonate with us. The cultural and biblical understanding is that Jesus dies on the cross to pay for our sins. But that makes many of us pause. Did Jesus suffer so that a sacrifice was paid for our sins? Ancient traditions are full of sacrificial systems. There is this notion that there is a cosmic reckoning that needs to occur. We sin and make mistakes, and so we need to pay a price for those wrongs. There is something within us that longs for the ability to pay for these mistakes, to wipe our record clean. So it is an ancient idea that the lifeblood of an animal needs to flow, or crops need to be burned in order to pay for our sins. And on Holy Week, we have said that Jesus Christ has paid the final payment for our sins.
But what does that say about God? Do we serve a divine being that needs blood to atone for sins? And, even more disturbing, would we worship a God who would require the sacrifice of God’s son to atone for sins? That sort of reckoning may have made sense in ancient times, but now it puts into question the nature and character of God. Is God vengeful? Does God need payment for wrongs that have been committed? Is God bloodthirsty? Is God some sort of divine child abuser, a divine being who would need to see God’s own son suffer so that our wrongs might be paid for? This idea of God is quite disturbing, this divine reckoning says something about the character of God, so many people have begun to question these notions.
I spoke to the neurologist Michael Newberg recently. He wrote the books Why God Isn’t Going Away and How God Changes Your Brain. He explained how religion has played an important part of our brain’s evolution. Thinking about, meditating on, and praying to a loving God can activate those things in our minds that give us internal peace and motivates us to compassion.
Yet, when we begin to imagine a vengeful God, that can lead to anger and frustration within ourselves. We can begin to ruminate and our minds begin to grasp hold to vengeance and hatred. So, it’s important to remember the very important truths of Scripture, that God is love. That God is full of mercy and truth.
So what is the importance of Holy Week in all of this? If we understand the idea that people needed this divine sacrifice at one time in our history, if we understand that this is a very important theme in Scripture and in our tradition, but we also know that it may not resonate with us. Then, what is the importance of Holy Week?
It is important because we set aside time to think about suffering. Jesus suffered, even though he did not have to. He could have taken the easy way out. He could have shut his mouth, he could have skipped the donkey ride, he could have left the temple instead of knocking tables over and making a whip with cords. But he didn’t, he rode through the city, spoke the truth courageously, and ultimately faced his death.
So what is the importance of this time for us? Holy Week is a time when we shift our focus as Christians. As we remember the suffering of Jesus, then we begin to think about the hardships of other humans. There are so many who agonize around us. We take the time to remember the suffering of those in Haiti who still do not have homes to live in, those who are living with that stench. We stop, and we think about those who have been bombed in their cities. We take time out to imagine what it is like to live with the threat of Malaria or with AIDS. We pause and think about the homeless that we would ordinarily ignore on our streets. We remember those who have been thrown out of their houses because they have lost their jobs, and they cannot make their mortgage payments, and they cannot sell their homes, because the value of their houses have dropped off. We stop to think about those who do not have health insurance.
In this culture where we spend so much time thinking about the sex lives of celebrities, our portfolios, and what sort of power and affluence we could have we worked longer and harder and smarter. In this culture where we think mere moments about the suffering of others, we stop. We reflect. We raise money for people who face disasters, and those who are hungry. We teach our children to remember those around the world who are without food.
There is something very powerful about that focus. It moves us to compassion and stirs our imaginations, and compels us to act. For we cannot help until we have heard. We cannot respond to injustice, unless we have seen it. And traveling with Jesus, among the people singing hosanna, into the upper room where he washes the disciples feet. Moving through this powerful story where we remember the brutal assassination of our God has given Christians the ability to see suffering not as something that happens to the weak, but something that happens in unjust societies, something that happens to all of us. And the act of focusing our attention on it just might save our souls.
Through the glory of God our Creator,
God our Liberator,
and God our Sustainer. Amen.