Pastor, Western Presbyterian Church
Washington, DC
October 25, 2009
Text: Mark 10:46-52
Jill was from a long line of innovative people, solid businessmen and women, who made great money. And yet, one year, she found that her husband was without a job. His income was secondary, but their household finances still depended on his salary.
The days of unemployment turned into weeks, and the weeks turned into months, and the months turned into years. Their savings drained as her husband kept looking. He was open to all kinds of jobs, but it became clear that he did not have quite the right skills, and he was not going to find anything in that area.
They began to cut back all of the extravagances–eating out, posh grocery stores, and nice gifts for their children. Jill made sure not to spend any money on clothes. She was ashamed of her family’s predicament, so she put a happy face on all of it, trying to muster all of that optimism that people need when someone is unemployed.
Until one day, she took her dog on a walk, and she noticed that the air was getting colder. At first she had a burst of excitement, like a kid who is waiting for Christmas, but then the worry set in. How were they going to pay for the additional heating bills? They could easily go without air conditioning, but going without heat was totally different. And before she knew it, her head was caught up in a jumbled game of adding and subtracting, juggling the utility costs, and trying to figure out if she was going to have enough money to feed and shelter her children for the winter. She ran the numbers in her head, over and over again, hoping that she could find some way to make the imaginary columns in her head suddenly add up. It overwhelmed her.
She was exhausted and ashamed that she could not provide for her family. And when her dog had to stop—yet again to sniff the grass—she rested her back on a tree and took a deep breath. When she exhaled, her breath became choppy waves of overflowing, exhausted emotion. It finally overcame her. No matter how hard she tried to make the numbers add up in her mind, they were not working.
And right there, Jill did something that she had never done before. She prayed, “God, this has all become unmanageable. Please. Please help.”
As the words tumbled out of her mouth, she did not know why she had never uttered them before. It was not as if she had never prayed before. She had. But never about money.
In our country, we can be ignorant about or unable to do a lot of things. It is okay if an engineer cannot write well, or if a historian has no grasp of the basics of third grade science. Hardly anyone in America knows geography. But none of us are allowed to be ignorant about money. There are not many places in our society where we can whisper, “I’m not making it. The numbers are not adding up. I’m not sure that I am going to be able to find a job that pays off my student loans.” The American Way is about economic autonomy, and if you don’t have it, then you hide it, or you buy your way out of the shame with a credit card. You just try to hold it together.
But, while running through the numbers, Jill became aware that she could no longer keep anything together. She cried out and asked God for mercy.
For me, the word mercy brings up some very painful memories. You see, it was a game, my brother or sister would get me in some sort of torturous hold where I could not breath, or my limbs were being bent back in a direction that they were never ever supposed to bend. Being the youngest child, with two siblings who were much older than me, I never won at the game, I was just at the “mercy” of my brother and sister. The only power I had in the situation was to hold off saying the “M” word as long as possible. Hoping that they would second-guess their cruelty. But they never did.
I just remember my brother of sister pushing my hand back, until I collapsed on my knees, until tears started streaming down my face, until I could no longer take the pain, and I would cry, “Mercy.” And then sometimes they would relent, but other times they would want me to beg for mercy, so I would have to say, “Mercy, please.” I gained very flexible wrists through that process.
The lessons I learned through those games stuck with me. I learned many of the defensive moves for the small and weak. Like how to move with the force, rather than trying to fight against it. I learned how to wiggle my way out of things and run fast. And I learned to keep my fingernails sharp (the fingernails eventually stopped the game). But, the main thing I learned was to never cry out for help. Unless it was the very last thing in the world that you had to do.
Those lessons that we learn as children stick with us. It is a sign of weakness to cry mercy. It makes it so that someone else has power over us. It makes it so that we are no longer in control. I would endure all kinds of pain before I cried the “M” word.
These lessons stick with all of us. Think of how long it takes before the person who cannot get to sleep without drinking so much that they finally black out, goes before she gets some help. Think of how bad a relationship has to suffer before a couple finally has to go to a counselor for help. Think of how much anxiety or depression has to wash over us, before we finally realize that we need professional help. Think of the person who is suffering with mental or physical abuse, how long is takes them before they have to say, “I can’t take this any more. I have to find a safe place.” Think of what a man has to go through before he can finally admit that he cannot quit taking the prescription drugs that he is on.
I mean, no wonder the first steps of 12-step programs are the most difficult—having to admit that there is a problem, and we can no longer manage it. We are out of control, and we have to rely on a higher power to restore us to sanity.
We become like this beggar on the side of the road. The blind man who realizes that Jesus is passing by and so he calls out to him. And the people around him try to silence him. They try to shut him up, because it’s embarrassing to have someone yelling out that raw and naked cry for help. So they tell him, sternly to be quiet, but he will not be silenced, and he calls out even more loudly, “Have mercy on me!”
And there’s something that happens at this moment. The meaning of the word changes here. Because “mercy” is no longer the desperate call for help—it is no longer the longing plea. A transformation occurs in those simple five letters. Because Jesus hears his call and asks him closer. And Jesus asks him what he needs and says to him, “Go; you faith has made you well.” And the man regains his sight. So the cry of “mercy” becomes the merciful love that heals this man and gives him wholeness.
And even though we do not have any dusty roads to walk upon, even though there is no physical Jesus that we can yell our mercy to, we can also experience this loving flood. The merciful miracles inhabit this sanctuary, overturning our destructive habits, and freeing us from the bondage of oppression.
“Mercy” is transformed from a call of help and becomes the grace and love of God that pours out upon us. I cannot explain it exactly, because sometimes it seems so ordinary for everyone except for the person who is experiencing it. But it is the fact that Jill soon got a transfer to a city where her husband found a job. It is the fact that there are 12-step meetings all over this region, and they are filled with people who are crying mercy as well. And when you learn to call out, you realize that there is support and encouragement, and an incredible system of mercy. It is the fact that when depression comes over us, and we begin to daydream about ending our own lives, we learn that people have dedicated their lives to helping men and women walk through the valley of the shadow of death.
As we baptize Jack, we surround him, promising to show the love of God to him. And we will pray that he will grow up to be a man of courage and conviction and love. And with all children, we recognize that Jack will need to learn to grow from the dependence on his mother and father, to become independent.
But the words of Jesus remind us that we are not only to teach children, but to learn from them as well. And we can learn from the cry of a child, that sometimes calling for help and for mercy can be the key to wholeness.
Anne Lamott, in all her wit and wisdom says that the two best prayers that she knows are “Thank you, thank you, thank you” and “Help me, help me, help me.” May we go out, rich in those two simple prayers, and may we find a flood of mercy, surrounding us and holding us, even in our darkest times.
And may we do so to the glory of God, our Creator,
God, our Liberator,
and God, our Sustainer. Amen.