Pastor, Western Presbyterian Church
Washington, D.C.
March 22, 2009
Text: John 3:14-21
John records Jesus as saying, “…the light has come into the world, and people loved darkness rather than light….” We live in one of those times when it is abundantly clear why people chose to live in the darkness. People made, literally, billions of dollars working in the dark recesses of our credit markets. Terrorists work in dark places building their bombs. Abusers beat family members behind closed doors. Drug users go into dark alleys to make their purchases. Drug cartels use the night the way a master violinist uses a Stradivarius.
The darkness is cover for those who do nefarious things. As Jesus puts it, “For all who do evil hate the light and do not come to the light, so that their deeds may not be exposed.” People labor in the dark intentionally, methodically, hurrying to accomplish their dirty work before the light can expose them.
So, many folks love the darkness because it aids their cause. They profit from it. There they are able to do things no one would tolerate if their deeds came to light.
The more challenging people to understand are those who live in the dark not because it directly profits them but because of some neurotic, deeply seated need. They have affairs not for because they enjoy sex but because the darkness makes it feel illicit, clandestine. They cheat on their taxes year after year after year not because they need the money but simply to see how far they can push their luck.
Frankly, this latter group represents the folks who come into my office. I don’t get to talk with the Adolph Hitler’s of the world, the drug lord who doesn’t think twice about beheading a problem employee, in other words, the folks who profit from the darkness.
But the people who choose to lead secretive lives, the people who do self-destructive things in the darkness? In droves, they come to me, other pastors, rabbis, priests, and therapists. They arrive filled with shame, guilt, and self-loathing. They live in the dark but don’t understand why they choose to do so. Key word: choose. Their behavior is a choice and they know it is a choice. What confuses them is why they choose the darkness over the light night after night after pitch black night.
These folks are confused because they spend much of their lives in the light. They know what it is like to enjoy the energy and creativity of the light. In the light, Eliott Spitzer was a crime buster. Bill Clinton signed progressive legislation. Martha Stewart taught people to enjoy homemaking.
But something draws these folks back into the dark—time after time after time. They circle the darkness, debating whether to re-enter it and almost always do.
I guess this is one of the reasons I love biographies. I am fascinated at what causes people—bright, creative, good people—to move from the light into the darkness. What caused Bill Clinton repeatedly to leave an incredibly productive, successful life to engage in tawdry, meaningless affairs? What compelled Eliot Spitzer to leave a beautiful family and successful career to meet prostitutes in secretive places? What made Martha Stewart descend into the dark world of insider trading?
Each of these individuals is a very, very smart person. Somewhere in their psyche, they had to know they were going to get caught. They had to know that someone would shine a bright spotlight on them at some point or another. Bernard Madoff stood before the court and acknowledged that he knew he was going to get caught. And yet, these folks kept going back into the darkness. They couldn’t stop.
Some say such figures are drunk with power, arrogantly certain they are above the law. Maybe. For a few. But for most, it is far, far more complicated than that. For many, the darkness has an appeal, allure, attraction even they don’t understand. But go there they do. And once there, as Jesus put it, people begin to love the darkness.
For some, I think it is a way of affirming a deeply rooted, nagging, lingering suspicion that they are bad people. A chorus made of up of their family, friends, and co-workers tell them they are good. But deep down inside they don’t believe a word of it. They are convinced the praise is rooted in a lie.
” I’m just fooling everyone,” they say to themselves, “I’m no good.” They then proceed to prove to themselves they are no good. In the darkness, they drink too much, cheat on their partner, do illegal things at work, all the while saying to themselves, “See, I’m not as good as people think I am.”
What is tragic is the fact that they are good. God makes each of us good. We can act bad. We can act real bad. But we are still good. Created in the image of our good God, we can’t undo the goodness we are.
Indeed, living in the dark is learned behavior. Because it isn’t our natural state of being. This is why children scream when the lights go off. It is why some adults need night lights in the house. Medical research reveals that some of us get depressed when we aren’t exposed to enough light. Our natural place is in the light.
However, as we learn to live in the dark, we grow comfortable with these private, shadowy places. The more time we spend in the darkness, the more comfortable we become with it. Slowly but surely, the dark feels like our home, a home we love, just as some kidnaped people grow to love their abductors.
The transformation is so profound that at some point, when we emerge into the light, we are blinded by it. Staggered by the light, we grope our way back into the darkness.
Last week, I went to a church in Northern Virginia to participate in a debate over the ordination of LGBT folks in our denomination. Being around you all for so long, I am always a bit shocked when I hear what some church folks have to say on the matter. When I said the church needs to welcome LGBT people, one 30-something woman said she felt called to protect the church and her children from homosexuals. She felt called to exclude them. When I said we should listen to people under the age of 25, most of whom just don’t care about homosexuality as an issue, a 40-something said she thinks the morals of young people are repugnant so I should stop citing them as support for my position.
Driving home, I was processing the experience. I began to think of the debate in terms of light and darkness. As I see it, the church is emerging from a cave in which we were born and have spent most of our life. It is a deep, dark place filled with sexism, racism, homophobia, and perverted forms of nationalism. Not able to look at these sins in the light of God’s love, we have acted out of fear in the darkness.
When we have these debates, people momentarily come out into the light. We don’t all agree. But at least we are talking and thinking about homosexuality in a healthy environment, in the light of God’s Word. Sadly, when the debate ends, a lot of folks run back into the cave. However, gratefully, more and more don’t run back. We stay in the light and wonder why we ever chose to live in that cave. As a result, the church inches its way toward holiness and a healthy recognition of our sinfulness.
As I look around this country today and consider what is happening, I think the lights have come on. We were living in the dark. Most of us had no idea what was going on behind closed doors in the worlds of finance, intelligence gathering and elsewhere. But suddenly, the lights are on. And as always happens when lights go on, the cockroaches are running for cover.
As we stand in the light, some of what we see isn’t pretty. In addition, the brightness of the light hurts our eyes. Maybe it wasn’t such a good idea to step into the light.
But it will be ok. We’ll get used to it. We’ll adjust. And when we do, we will begin to feel the joy and power that come with life in the light.
However, a moment will come when we will need to make a decision. Do we stay in the light or do we crawl back into the dark cave? Do we deal with what we see or shroud it with darkness so it seems to go away? It will be a moment of truth that defines our life—personally, nationally, as a church.
Every addict has been there. I talk about addicts a lot because I think most of us are addicted to something. Generally speaking, addicts are “us” not “them.”
At some point, most addicts sober up. We stop drinking or eating too much. We stop watching pornography or sleeping with anyone who will say “yes.”
However, at some point, there is a moment of truth. The darkness beckons, calls us home. As we look at the darkness, we remember how comfortable the darkness was, how comfortable it might be again. Indeed, as Jesus would say, there is a part of us, a powerful part of us that is in love with the darkness.
At that moment, we need God like we rarely need God. Then, right then, we need to trust God, not the dealer, not the bag of potato chips, not the compulsive need to buy something. We need to trust God’s judgement that we are good, not that all-too-familiar voice within us saying we are bad so go ahead and act bad.
We need to believe that, indeed, we are meant to live in the light. We need to believe God’s Word that the light has overcome the darkness. There is no need for us to go there anymore.
Now living in the light isn’t always easy, especially at first. People today are having a difficult time accepting the realities that have suddenly been illuminated over the past year. We don’t have the money, power or flexibility that we thought we had—nationally, as a church, as individuals.
Some just don’t want to accept this fact. Others want us to make quick decisions even though our eyes haven’t yet fully adjusted to seeing in the light. But if we will allow ourselves to get used to seeing and living in the light, as used to the light as we are to the dark, we will learn to deal with the sometimes harsh realities exposed by the light.
On the whole, I think the aging process is a wonderful thing. I would much rather be John Wimberly the 61-year-old than John Wimberly the 21- or 31-year-old. But there are some challenges. One of them is the way our bodies change. Because as we age, our bodies move away from what society defines as beautiful.
To deal with clients who come to him with issues around their aging bodies, a therapist friend of mine has a little exercise he recommends. He tells his client to go home, take off all his or her clothes and stand in front of a mirror. “Stand there for a long time. Turn around. Look at yourself from different angles,” he says.
If they follow his advice, they will see their bodies in the light rather than trying to hide them in the dark. Gradually, they will begin to ignore what the fashion magazines or Hollywood tells us is beautiful, realizing instead that their bodies are downright amazing gifts.
If we look in the mirror with our reduced 401ks, flat lined salaries, and declining home values, at first, it is tough to keep looking. We want to look away. But if we stick with it, we will see what we are. We are still very, very blessed. Standing in the light, understanding who we are, is the key to any healthy growth into the future.
We love the darkness because we don’t have to have the kinds of confrontations with ourselves that occur when the lights are on. We can live in a world of illusion and delusion. We can pretend that some things exist that don’t exist and pretend that some things don’t exist that do exist. We know that when the lights come on, our worlds of make-believe are caput.
Jesus invited us to step out of our make-believe worlds—worlds where we think we are the mightiest power on earth, immune to what happened to every other empire that thought it was the mightiest power on earth; worlds where we think we can prove our worth at work or abuse our bodies without paying a price for it.
Jesus said, “Follow me. Let’s walk in the light.” As we walk with him into the light, we are going to see things about ourselves and others that aren’t pretty. But the unpleasant realities are there whether we see them or not. When we ignore them, they gain a power over us they don’t possess in the light. The light has the power to defuse them
So, yes, living in the light, we will see some unpleasant things. But we will also see amazing, miraculous things about ourselves and others. Most important, we will see that we are good, women and men whose destiny it is to live in the light. The light. It is a great place to live.
Let us pray: Gracious God, you call us to live in the light. This invitation fills us with fear. How will we be exposed? What will we be exposed in others? May we have the courage to find out. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.